This Mother's Prayer

While reading my Women’s Devotional Bible this morning, I read a devotion by Gloria Gather that got me to thinking about  my son whose birthday is next week.  In her devotion titled “I Wish You” Ms. Gaither referenced the third chapter of Ephesians after reflecting on her daughter’s college graduation party.  She had listened to her friends wishing her daughter success which caused her and her husband to discuss what they wished for their daughter.   They decided they wouldn’t wish wealth or notability for her.  Ms. Gaither said they would wish some sunshine, some rain, growth, vision and the ability to feel what those who are hurt or left out or lonely feel.  This drew them to the Book of Ephesians. 

My mind strayed back to my daughter’s wedding in October, 2008 when I quoted Paul’s prayers in Ephesians 1 and 3 in the commemorative bookmark given to her guests.  We asked Deanna’s guests to place the bookmark in their bibles and reference it in praying for Deanna and her husband. 

So as I think about the upcoming birthday for my married son who’s a soldier and father of three, I offer Paul’s same prayer for him.  Like the Gaithers, I’m not asking God to give Damian, my firstborn, wealth and notability. 

In this open letter to my son, Damian, I want you to know that for all of your birthdays: 

I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the Spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know Him better. I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which He has called you, the riches of His glorious inheritance in His holy people,  and His incomparably great power for us who believe.  I pray that out of His glorious riches He may strengthen you with power through His Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your heart through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge —that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.

Happy Birthday, Son.  Love, Mom

Generous Givers

A couple weeks ago, I volunteered at a week-long, Christian-driven day camp for youth run by a married couple who are close friends of mine.  I saw how they poured themselves into their ministry by ensuring that, in each of the well-thought out activities, all of the youth participated.  Some of the youth have attended the camp for years; for others it was their first time.  My friends had the youth change their seats throughout the week so that they could get to know each other.  As a result, new friendships were formed.  The youth learned about the importance of faith, enhanced their communication skills, and by week’s end, several had memorized and were able to recite the camp’s affirmation statement.

During my morning devotion a few days after the conclusion of the camp, I read 2 Corinthians 9:6-8; 10-13 and thought about this couple:

    Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously.   Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not relunctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.  And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.

    Now He who supplies seed to the sower and bread for food will also supply and increase your store of seed and will enlarge the harvest of your righteousness.  You will be enriched in every way so that you can be generous on every occasion, and through us your generosity will result in thanksgiving to God.  This service that you perform is not only supplying the needs of the Lord's people but is also overflowing in many expressions of thanks to God.  Because of the service by which you have proved yourselves, others will praise God for the obedience that accompanies your confession of the gospel of Christ and for your generosity in sharing with them and with everyone else.

Last night, I was with a friend who brought together a group of people to discuss concerns they had about their apartment building which had recently changed ownership.  She provided plenty of food and beverage and structured the gathering in such a way that all felt comfortable expressing their issues.  On numerous occasions I’ve seen this friend give of her time, talent and treasure to replenish and build up the Lord’s people. 

I am blessed to be surrounded by many friends like these, people who sow generously, whose service not only supplies the needs of the Lord’s people but overflows in many expressions of thanks to God.  Because of their service, others praise God!  They are role models for me and my husband.  While we have volunteered and financially supported our church and a number of charities over the years, we have become more generous in our giving, not in an effort to outdo anyone, but because we know “thanksgiving to God” is the result and others will “praise God.”  We can testify about His abundant blessings. 

Are you a cheerful, generous giver?  If not, consider moving in this (His) direction; remember, He will supply what is needed for you to bless His people.  If your response is yes, keep doing what you’re doing for God loves “cheerful givers!”

Sleepless in (insert your city)

Last night was another sleepless night for me.  I don’t know how well you are sleeping these days, but I don’t sleep through most nights no matter what time I go to bed.  While I’ve always been an early riser, I know there was a time when I slept regularly through the night…not that I can remember when!  I know I’m not the only one with this problem because others (some much younger than me) have posted on Facebook that they can’t get back to sleep.

There are several reasons why I have difficulty sleeping through the night.  The first one is because I’m a light sleeper…it takes a while for me to drown out internal and external noises.  The second reason is the permanent neuropathy (numbness) in my right foot bothers me more at night than any other time.  The third reason for my sleep difficulty is that every night after I fall asleep, my Bladder and Kidneys decide to torture me between midnight and 3:00 am.  I’ve been unsuccessful in ignoring them!   

When I return to bed, my Lower Back and Right Hip begin their nightly dalliance with Ms. Osteo and Mr. Arthur (osteoarthritis)!  The problem is after they get together, they never want to separate until I get up and move around.  Since I know the four of them have an addiction to each other, I occasionally take Aleve right before going to bed as a ploy to keep them separated.  Last night, they figured out my game plan, slipped past Aleve, and began jamming the night away. 

After a couple hours of intermittent sleep, Bladder and Kidneys got jealous of the foursome and decided to torture me again.  Ignoring them was useless.  I yielded to them again!  With sleep evading me, I began thinking about the seven relatives and friends I had visited during the week who are battling illnesses and bereavement.  It’s now 6:00 am on a Saturday morning.  I slip out of bed for the third time, grab my prayer journal and head downstairs where I spent the next hour in intercessory prayer. 

I think my inability to sleep through the night may be a ‘thorn’ the Lord has given to me... to keep me mindful of how blessed I am and prompt me to pray for those who are in the midst of a storm.  When you’re unable to sleep, consider those you know who are in a storm and intercede on their behalf.   I’ve learned there’s more than one way to feel rested!  But if you see me nodding or I come across as irritable, consider that I may have just had another sleepless night! 

Ephesians 6:18 And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people. (NIV)

Whose Opinion Matters

I love my children and value their opinions.  They are college-educated, married adults with children of their own.  Although I value their opinion, I do not let their opinions sway me against God's Word.  This has been heavy on my mind after I received an e-mail on May 9, 2012 from President Barack Obama with the subject heading "Marriage."  In this e-mail, President Obama said "I believe that same-sex couples should be allowed to marry."  He said he "was reluctant to use the term marriage because of the very powerful traditions it evokes."  He went on to say "when I look at Sasha and Malia, who have friends whose parents are same-sex couples, I know it wouldn't dawn on them that their friends' parents should be treated differently.  So I decided it was time to affirm my personal belief that same-sex couples should be allowed to marry."

I've been quite disturbed by the President's position but not for the reasons you might think.  Although I do disagree with his position, I was most disturbed because nowhere in President Obama's May 9 e-mail did he state he had come to his conclusion based on his study of God's Word.  Several news articles noted "Obama had previously implied the Bible supports homosexual unions."  But it's this quote from the President about his position that I have difficulty accepting “If people find that controversial, then I would just refer them to the Sermon on the Mount, which I think is, in my mind, for my faith, more central than an obscure passage in Romans.”  I hope that President Obama misspoke when he referred to a biblical passage as obscure.  I'm guessing he's referring to Romans 1:18-32  (in particular vs 26-27  Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion.) 

During my Bible study, I read the following devotion about 2 Tim. 3:16-17 by Kathryn Hilton:  "Sometimes its hard to distinguish our cultural beliefs from Biblical truth.  As we grow in the Lord, we must examine our beliefs to make sure they are based on what the Bible says rather than merely on what we were taught...If we do not test our beliefs against the Bible, we may perpetuate human opinions rather than God-ordained doctrine, cultural mores rather than Biblical morality.  We need to examine our own beliefs and be responsible for what we teach others, including our children and people in our church.  Are we teaching them our opinions and our perspective, or are we teaching them God's?" 

2 Tim 3:16-17 says: All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness:  That the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works."  For this reason, I wouldn't call any passage in Romans "obscure" and wish that President Obama had not said so, too.

Without Ceasing

This morning I was reading Chapter 1 of Romans.  You can read a scripture several times and all of a sudden something with stand out.  When I read Romans 1:9, “For God is my witness, whom I serve with my spirit in the gospel of his Son, that without ceasing I make mention of you always in my prayer” (underscore mine) it spoke to me. 

Yesterday, I was honored at a luncheon along with 22 other women.  The theme for the luncheon was “Extraordinary Women Doing Extra Ordinary Things.”  My sister asked me how did I get selected; what were the criteria?  I told her I didn’t know.  After reading the brief bio this organization wrote about me, it became clear.  It was noted that ”that my ministry is visiting the sick, shut in, and bereaved families in their time of need”, “if you need a special prayer,” I’m the one to call, and that I “will sit and hold your hand when you need that extra lift to get you through.” 

I had no idea in 2006, when I quit my well-paid job with perks and excellent benefits, what the Lord had planned for me.  I had long ago adopted Jeremiah 29:11 as one of my favorite scriptures: For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.  His plan for me - a ministry of prayer and visitation - became clearer over time. 

For years I have written my prayers in journals which help me remember those who need prayer without ceasing.  I focus on the sick and bereaved the most.  I pray for bereaved families for two years.  I lift to God my family (my husband, children, parents, siblings, grandchildren, extended family), my church family, friends, neighbors, those serving in the military and elected officials (1 Tim 1:1-2), young people who I know are going through a tough time, my three World Vision children and my four Godsons, and those who I know who are incarcerated.  God never fails to place someone on my heart. 

I have shared with my prayer partners that often my heart is burdened because of what others are enduring.  We are instructed in Galatians 6:2 Bear ye one another's burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.  I get overwhelmed sometimes by what others are going through, but I also receive encouragement as I see God answering my prayers.    

If you pray that that our God would count me worthy of this calling, and fulfil all the good pleasure of His goodness, and the work of faith with power (2 Thes.1:11) there is no doubt that I will continue to visit the sick, comfort the bereaved, and serve as a prayer intercessor without ceasing as the Lord leads me.  To God be the Glory, Honor and Praise!

Deny Self

I haven’t blogged all month.  Yesterday, I caught a portion of Chuck Swindoll’s sermon about “Three Musts for the New Year.”  One of those “musts” is denying one’s self.  This got me to thinking – in what ways do I deny myself for Him?  I knew I had to blog about this because as I approach a new year, I want to be a true disciple. God’s Word is clear about denying self:

Matt. 16:24 Then Jesus said to his disciples, “Whoever wants to be my disciple must (1) deny themselves and (2) take up their cross and (3) follow me.

Mark 8:34 Then he called the crowd to him along with his disciples and said: “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me.

Luke 9:23 Then he said to them all: “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross daily and follow me.

Mr. Swindoll said “a passionate desire to obey and please God is the beginning of true discipleship and starts with saying no to self.  Say no to what YOU want.  Mr. Swindoll reminded me that obeying Him means tasting death – death to something, to someone, that it means more than occasional unselfishness.  It means dying to something or someone everyday or He would not have said ‘daily.’

 
There are movies and programs I won’t watch, places I won’t go, stuff I won’t do.  BUT, I still think thoughts I shouldn’t think, say things I shouldn’t say, offend when I don’t mean to, laugh at stuff that’s not funny.  I have to deny myself thoughts and actions DAILY that are contrary to His Will and Word to be in complete obedience to Him as His true disciple.  You have to look at your life, your thoughts and actions – what is it you need to deny to be His true disciple?  I hope I’ve provoked your thinking about this.  Please hold me accountable in 2012.  Happy New Year!

Spare the Rod?

 My daughter-in-law called me a couple days ago and shared some discussions she had with my 10-year-old granddaughter.  My granddaughter is extremely bright and questions (or should I say challenges) everything.  Before I tell you what drove her mom to call me, let me give you an idea of how bright my granddaughter is.

In March, 2009, when she was eight years old, she and my great niece who was ten at the time used my computer to create approximately 50 slides.  They named their presentation “Visiting Ohio.”  They recorded their voices (they showed me how to do this), added clipart, located my daughter’s wedding pictures on my PC and uploaded some of the pictures.   I was amazed at how computer proficient they were.  Below are verbatim excerpts from their handiwork, titles,typos and all (remember, they are 8 and 10 years old).  I only wish I was able to include their recordings as well (they could probably show me how to do this)!    

Hairstyle: WHEN YOU GET YOUR HAIR DONE IT TAKES FOREVER. YES YOU WANNA LOOK GOOD FOR YOUR MAN.BUT YOU SPENDING YOUR MAN’S CASH! SO THANK YOU FOR LOOKING AT THIS BYE! AND STOP SPENDING YOUR MAN’S MONEY!

Hairstyle #2: OKAY YOU REMEMBER LAST TIME! HAHAHAHAHA!OKAY STOP SPENDING YOUR MAN’S CASH IT HURTS IT HAS PAIN!THE MONEY IS LIKE HELP ME STOP SPENDING ME! SO LADIES STOP SPENDING YOUR MAN’S CASH

the  school:  SCHOOL IS ABOUT LEARNING AND ABOUT EUDACATION. COLLEGE IS VERY INTERACTING. MY DADDY WENT TO COLLEGE  I AM ALSO GOING TO COLLEGE ITS ME TIYE THE ONE WHO IS GOING TO COLLEGE! WHEN I WAS IN ELEMENTRY SCHOOL DAMIEN USE TO SAY I WAS TO SMALL. BUT I PROVED MY AGE! SO  YEAH I STOULD THAT BOY UP! IT FELT SO GOOD! AFTHER THEN I WAS FEELING A LITTLE  BETTER!

MIMI LIFE: MY LIFE IS SO AMAZING YEAH I MIGHT NOT BE RICH BUT I AM SO AWSOME! MY FRIENDS THINK I AM SO FUNNY! MY FAVORITE COLOR IS GREEN AND BLUE! BUT I HAVE A GREAT FAMILY AND FRIENDS BUT THAT IS NOT THE ONLY REASON ABOUT MY LIFE I HAVE A WII BYE

TIYES LIFE: MY LIFE IS EXACTLEY LIKE I WANT IT TO BE! MY FAVORITE COLOR IS PINK, BLUE AND YELLOW!TWO BROTHERS  AND ZEROS SISTER! BUT I WANT MY FAVORITE TWO COUSINS TO BE MY  SISTERS!RAHJA DOSENT NEED TO KNOW THAT!MY FAVORITE FOOD IS PIZZA AND SALAD.

While I hope you enjoyed reading this, I'm guessing you're wondering what does this have to do with sparing the rod?  As smart as my granddaughter is, she hasn’t at age 10 learned that while she can say just about anything she wants to her cousin, she cannot say whatever she wants to her mother.  Since she's 'slow' to learn this, my daughter-in-law occasionally has to use the ‘rod’ which prompted my granddaughter to ask her mother, “where does it say in the bible that parents should spank their kids?” 

For my daughter-in-law and other parents of young children, here’s what the Word says about disciplining your children. 

• He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him (Prov. 13:24)
• Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him (Prov. 22:15)
• Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish him with the rod, he will not die (Prov. 23:13)

This past week Anderson Cooper (CNN) was covering Science on Spanking - How Hitting Children May Harm Them Later in Life with emphasis on the book “To Train Up A Child.” From what I’ve heard about this book, I don’t recommend it.  I do recommend these articles (see links below): A Parent's Rules for Spanking: The Correct Way to Spank Your Child by Jamie K Wilson and The Bible and Spanking Children: How–and How Not–to Spank Children, Bible-Based Guidelines for Christian Parents and Others by Doug Britton

http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/230229/a_parents_rules_for_spanking_the_correct.html?cat=25

http://www.dougbrittonbooks.com/onlinebiblestudies-parentinghelpandadvice/spankingchildren-bibleinfoforchristianparents.php

Let me add this caveat.  I believe my dad spanked me and my siblings far too often.  He believed in spanking all of us until someone ‘fessed up.’ I unequivocally do not support spanking teenagers (I got my last spanking around age 15 - there was absolutely no point to it). After I had my first child, my dad told me he learned from me that you don’t have to spank all the time. While my son may feel as if he got spanked too much, he wasn’t spanked nearly as often. His sister, who’s ten years younger, was spanked probably five times or less. They are both intelligent, well-adjusted adults who are college graduates, married with children, and living on their own. I’m extremely proud of and have a great relationship with both of them. The bottom line, it's your decision whether to spank or not, but I suggest you follow the Word of God.  If you decide to spank, do it sparingly because there are a couple scriptures that applies to parents: 

• And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord (Eph 6:4)
• Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged (Col. 3:21)